We all are going to deal with shit in life that will undoubtedly bring us to our knees…
If we are lucky to live long enough, we are going to deal with heartbreak that challenges the inner core of our existence. As I have mentioned several times in the Daily Hustle, it’s not the events that happen in our lives that determine who we are and who we become, but it’s our reaction to those events…
That said, just because we understand that our reaction is 100 percent up to us, that does not mean we will be immune to hard core natural feelings that have the potential to completely overwhelm us under any circumstance.
So, the question then becomes what to do with those feelings…
First and foremost, there is no need to deny their existence. Burying your feelings will just have them reveal themselves in a future time and place that you have absolutely no control over. Deal with your feelings & deal with them now… Yet, part of dealing with feelings is understanding that sometimes there is only one true healing formula…
Time.
When my Dad passed away from botched care after a surgery, the range of feelings and emotions were so incredibly overwhelming it’s tough to describe. After dealing with the initial shock of what happened, there was an intense sadness knowing I would never get to see or talk to my Dad again. Then, there was an anger that had me infuriated that his post surgery care was a complete and total cluster f*ck that needlessly cost him his life.
I didn’t want to see or talk to anybody, and for the most part, until his service two weeks later, I didn’t… Then, there was a good one year period where I would all of a sudden become hit with a rush of emotions out of f*cking nowhere…
I get it, one of the last things anybody going through a difficult loss wants to hear is “time heals…”
But…
Time does heal…
Eventually, the meltdowns became less frequent and I was able to move further away from the pain, anger and heartbreak from knowing Dad would not get to watch his granddaughters grow up and he would never get to meet his grandson.
When we are finally able to take the overwhelming emotions out of the equation, it’s then and only then that we are able to truly move on.
Finally, instead of feeling like we are the victims, we are able to properly charge forward with our lives by letting the spirit of the person we lost positively radiate through us in just about everything that we do…
Yes, we all will go through tough losses and they will f*cking hurt, and It will be impossible to comprehend how that pain will ever go away, but it does…
Even though we may never want to hear it, truth always speaks & time always heals.
-EB